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Fathers Gift

A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.



As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car.


Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study.



His father! told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat Disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bhagavad Gita, with the young man's name embossed in gold.


Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, " With all your money you give me a Bhagavad Gita? And stormed out of the house, leaving the Bhagavad Gita.


Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day.


Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.


When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bhagavad Gita, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bhagavad Gita and began to turn the pages.


His father had carefully underlined a verse, "Lord Krishna would give whatever his devotee asks for, do that son whenever someone comes to you for help" As he read those words, a car key dropped from the back of the Bhagavad Gita. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words... PAID IN FULL.

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How many times do we miss God's blessings because they are not packaged as we expected ? I trust you enjoyed this. Pass it on to others. Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for...
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IF YOUR GIFT IS NOT PACKED THE WAY YOU WANT IT , IT'S BECAUSE IT IS BETTER PACKED THAT WAY! ALWAYS APPRECIATE LITTLE THINGS; THEY USUALLY LEAD YOU TO ATTACHMENTS!

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LOVE YOU DAD==STORY BEHIND FATHER'S DAY.

This week end is a very very SPECIAL one........Guess what.....its FATHERS DAY........ (16th June).......so please don"t miss the opportunity make him feel very very special.....    A dad is someone who wants to catch you before you fall but instead picks you up, brushes you off, and lets you try again. A dad is someone who wants to keep you from making mistakes but instead lets you find your own way, even though his heart breaks in silence when you get hurt. A dad is someone who holds you when you cry, scolds you when you break the rules, shines with pride when you succeed, and has faith in you even when you fail. Dad, is everything a dad should be and more...        Story behind Father"s Day... Mrs. John B. Dodd, of Washington, first proposed the idea of a "father"s day" in 1909.. Mrs. Dodd wanted a special day to honor her father, William Smart. William Smart, a Civil War veteran, was widowed when his wife (Mrs. Dodd"s mother) died in childbirth with their sixth child. Mr. Smart was left to raise the newborn and his other five children by himself on a rural farm in eastern Washington state. It was after Mrs. Dodd became an adult that she realized the strength and selflessness her father had shown in raising his children as a single parent. Regards   LOVE YOU DAD When you were 8 years old,  your dad handed you an ice cream.  You thanked him by dripping it all over your lap.  When you were 9 years old, he paid for piano lessons. You thanked him by never even bothering to practice.  When you were 10 years old, he drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastics to one birthday party after another. You thanked him by jumping out of the car and never looking back.  When you were 11 years old, he took you and your friends to the movies. You thanked him by asking to sit in a different row. When you were 12 years old, he warned you not to watch certain TV shows. You thanked him by waiting until he left the house. When you were 13, he suggested a haircut that was becoming. You thanked him by telling him he had no taste.  When you were 14, he paid for a month away at summer camp. You thanked him by forgetting to write a single letter.  When you were 15, he came home from work, looking for a hug. You thanked him by having your bedroom door locked.  When you were 16, he taught you how to drive his car. You thanked him by taking it every chance you could. When you were 17, he was expecting an important call. You thanked him by being on the phone all night.When you were 18, he cried at your high school graduation. You thanked him by staying out partying until dawn. When you were 19, he paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus, carried your bags. You thanked him by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn"t be embarrassed in front of your friends. When you were 25, he helped to pay for your wedding, and he cried and told you how deeply he loved you. You thanked him by moving halfway across the country.When you were 50, he fell ill and needed you to take care of him. You thanked him by reading about the burden parents become to their children.  And then, one day, he quietly died. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on YOUR HEART.  LOVE YOU DAD              &    MISS  YOU TOORAMNATH&JAYA

DO WE PERFORM OUR DUTY TO OUR PARENT?

The parents nowadays are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and the younger generations, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. They have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices made by their parents throughout their lives.

                                        DO WE PERFORM OUR DUTY TO OUR PARENT?

Since  birth we ate the  food provided by them -  many lakhs of times!!! Our  household expenses,  maintenance, educational needs,  daily coaching etc., was attended by them free of cost.  All our requirements  under the sky, from childhood till we started earning our own income, was provided by them at their cost, despite their financial conditions and ability,  until we became  independent  to enjoy and survive in this world. The services of our parents cannot be listed as it will run to volumes.  All that we can do in return is  our moral and spiritual responsibility to take care of them now when they are helpless

1. Give them enough money understanding their requirements without their indicating  same.
2. Share time with them to laugh and smile.
3. Be polite and dont try to control their actions, but politely give your views slowly and softly.
4. While walking keep pace with them as due to age, they may be slow and  stay behind them. Give them respect.
5. Look after  their needs,  just  asking   "shall I bring water, some biscuits, a fruit  etc.,? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba" etc
6. Observe their health condition closely and take  them for periodical check ups. Sensitive parents will not ask you to do this and that.
7. Check whether they take their mdicines timely and remind, dont talk about the cost of the medicine and value!!
8. Take them out where they would like to go, and organise it to their satisfaction.
9. Go from time to time to public places, parks, restaurants of their choice etc.,
10. Respect their preferences and  likes. Dont force your views and preferences.]
11. They dont demand respect, they deserve it
12. When  elders arrive or depart, open the door with respect.
13. Go shoping and watch they select and dont comment on their choices.. Your choices certainly will differ with theirs and you cannot thrust it on theirs.
14. celebrate their birthdays and wedding days with some surprise gifts observing their needs and preferences.
15. Daily wish them before you go out and return home visiting them in their rooms.
16. Explain your children the importance of the grand parents and cultivate the habit so that you will be respected when they become grown up!!!
17. When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
18. Dont criticise their friends and their manners, dresses etc., and talk ill of them.  They have not come to see you,or care for your views,  which please remember. 
19. In any matter of discussions where the views of yours and the parents  differ try to follow their views as much as possible finding a compromising solution without hurting  feelings. Remember their sacrifices and time,  and you owe them immeasurably which they never asked for. Going their way with your supporting ideas would be ideal patiently and politely.
20. Disposal of old parents to old age homes, and separate care homes is a crime unpardonable.   Rememer their hardship and difficulties in bringing you up and putting up with your tantrums and obstinacies  unmindfully. Dont be ignorant..
21. At the dinner table, first serve food to them and then to others

A word to parents also  --  Please for heaven's sake dont mention how much troubles and sufferings you had in bringing up your children in front of them or talk about the money you spent on their studies and maintenance etc.  This is not settlement of account matter.  Love begets love which please  remember and dont degrade yourself. You should not demand respect but command it.

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It's Time - Ego at 'Work'

It's Time - Ego at 'Work'

Many in the workplace believe that together with carrying their daily lunch bags to work, they are compelled also to carry that invisible but indispensable companion the EGO. It's a common myth that one cannot thrive, or even survive in the rat race of life and work today without it. But does our EGO truly serve us? Or are we simply a slave to it?

In fact, EGO is constantly at work, whether we are in the workplace or not. EGO is an age-old companion that has lived with us in our soul suitcase since birth. We keep it at hand for those moments of insecurity and discomfort, when the self does not feel confident or free and needs that little extra EGO boost! But our faithful protector, far from keeping us safe, causes a lot more harm than good. 

EGO is subtle yet its offspring are not! We may not easily admit that we have EGO, butthe children of EGO appear at a moment's notice and in many forms including: Avoiding, blaming, complaining, competing, condescending, controlling, correcting, criticizing, defending, denying, desiring, disapproving, disliking, doubting, envying, escaping, fixing (others) judging, impatience, liking (some and not others), lying, possessiveness, projecting, protecting, resisting and worrying.

We may dislike our own behaviour, we may even realise that it is causing our relationships and us pain and punishment, but EGO, that foe in the guise of a friend, is not going to let go of our company easily.

Take a few moments to take off the mask of EGO and reflect. You will notice that just about everyone is dependent upon the support of their EGO for a sense of self worth and value. Externally it comes across as an air of arrogance, bossiness, aggressiveness, and

superciliousness. Internally, EGO is whispering to us that we are better than or less than or even just plain worthless, none of which are true. The facade is hiding the truth even from ourselves: just as darkness is an absence of light, so too EGO is the absence of authentic self-respect.

And yet if we just had the courage to drop the mask and be who we truly are, we could easily make EGO redundant.

When I look more deeply inside I realize that I do not need to compete. I am unique, special and valuable just because I am, and not because of a title on the door, or the certificates on the wall or the trophies on the shelves. All those demonstrate my effort and enthusiasm to excel in life, and that is wonderful, yet I am not great because of those. I am great, because I recognize I am an eternal and powerful soul-being with a special part to play.

A big fat salary cheque may be a welcome sight, but it is a mirage offering me a false sense of freedom, a quality that can only come from within when I realise that I am much greater than the size of my bank balance.

An arrogant personality is a little bit like a coconut, extremely hard and not very attractive on the outside. Peaches are more enticing. The peaches of the world are those whose self-respect allows them to present a softer, gentler face to the world, yet internally they are strong. Their inner power allows them to drop the pretence of EGO because they know their own strength and value. Peaches lead by example; they have humility and honesty and work in collaboration.

As for the coconuts they prefer to show the world how hard they are, they rule by force rather than by consensus, and they may get things done, but are generally not very much liked.

It takes a lot of effort to crack open a coconut, but with a little bit of will and some personal effort even a coconut can become valuable: when the shell (of EGO) breaks and the goodness spills out.

It's time to do the real work of dropping the EGO and traveling light to work! Once we have cracked open the EGO we will automatically receive our big fat salary cheque! Not the paper kind, but an income of multimillion blessings, love and good wishes from our family, friends and colleagues. In the light of the authentic self the EGO is automatically dispelled.

Your Divine Friend

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