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Sunday, November 17, 2019

The Three Keys To Happiness

The Three Keys To Happiness

Life has a way of taking unexpected turns - of throwing surprises at us when we least expect them. In many ways, life does bring one down. When unplanned
and unexpected events come into our lives, they leave us in a state of pain, grief, doubt, fear and depression.

One feels the need for a strong and stable foundation that one can depend on when life's river takes unexpected turns. A simple formula is needed that can keep us grounded on the path and pointed in the right direction - that of flow, let go, forgiveness and happiness.

Here is just such a simple solution, presented in the form of three keys, that when remembered and practiced, keep us going in the right direction and while we walk the path, they also are the catalysts in bringing happiness.

Key 1 - Keep Your Heart Free From Hatred

When people, events and circumstances go against our wishes, desires or expectations, they create reactions of anger and frustration within us.
These reactions are natural and must not be denied or ignored - rather their underlying reason must be seen and overcome - that of our pre-decided ideas and expectations being thwarted.

These emotions occur as a natural progression of painful events and are fine as long as they are felt and released. The problem lies when we cannot let go of the feelings and they tend to seep into our hearts where they fester
till treated. If such is the case, these negative feelings tend to influence our way of thought, and necessarily, of action and become an integral part of our outlook towards life itself. Then everything that originates within
us carries the subtle flavour of these very negative feelings.

The first secret of happiness says that no matter what emotions we feel temporarily, our hearts must remain free of hate.

Key 2 - Keep Your Mind Free From Worry

We worry when our thoughts travel either to the future, or linger in the past. Worry is a phenomenon which depletes energy and divides attention - leaving us incapable of giving our best to the moment before us.

The only way to give a 100% of yourself to the task at hand is to be totally present in the present moment without thinking of what's gone by or what is
still to come - both cases where we have no say or control anyway.

Performing the action totally and to the best of one's ability brings back a positive result based on the law of karma - "As you sow, so shall you reap"
- a result which would not be possible had we divided our inner being with worry.

The second secret of happiness is to always perform actions based on careful thought and planning, but without worry.

Key 3 - Give A Lot, Expect A Little

It is crucial for our happiness to come to the realisation early in life that it is our own expectations and pre-conceived ideas and hopes, which when frustrated, cause most of our pain and agony.

Once this understanding has stabilised within us, we begin to live for the moment, and within ourselves instead of seeking outward or external reinforces for our self-esteem or happiness.

It is not enough for us to be passive spectators of our own life, we must also be willing to give and share freely of our best qualities without waiting for a similar return.

It is both wise and practical to remember the advice of numerous spiritual masters that "It is in the giving that we receive." The free giving of your own self without strings attached bring both peace and contentment in the
long run.

The third secret of happiness is to give a lot and expect very little.
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Friday, October 4, 2019

We Wish you happy Navratri and Dussehra may Maa Durga bless all

We Wish you happy Navratri and Dussehra may Maa Durga bless all
Wishing You & Your Family a Very Happy Navratri...
It is believed that Goddess Durga on her 10 day journey around the earth removes all evil.......
May Goddess Durga destroy all evil around you and fill your life with happiness and prosperity.
May this Navratri… Bring You Joy and Happiness... To last through out the year!
Greetings and love:

Monday, September 23, 2019

Thought this was lovely

Thought this was lovely
Your Mother carried you inside of her womb for nine whole months, she felt sick for months with nausea, then she watched her feet swell and her skin stretch and tear. She struggled to climb stairs, she got breathless quickly and even a simple task like putting her shoes on was a huge struggle for her. She suffered many sleepless nights while you kicked and squirmed inside of her and while you demanded that she scoffed junk at 3am, she then went through EXCRUCIATING PAIN to bring you into this world. She became your nurse, your chef, your maid, your chauffeur, your biggest fan, your teacher, your agony aunt and your best friend. She's struggled for you, cried over you, fought for you, put herself second for you, hoped the best for you and has driven herself insane with worry for you but never has she asked for anything in return because she loves you and did it all on love alone! Most of us take our Mums for granted but there are people who have lost or have never even seen theirs. If you have a loving Mother who did all of this for you, you are very lucky, never devalue her worth because one day, you'll wish you hadn't!
Keep sharing !
Safety... You will regret if you forget...!


Sunday, September 22, 2019

An advice to older parents !!!

An advice to older parents !!!
Attachment in Detachment (beautifully expressed - real life experience)
When my daughter, the older of my two, wed and left home, I felt a part of me gone.
With a daughter and a son, I know what both mean, differently.
When she was in her teens I felt as if she was my "physical extension" !
So when she left home to set up her own, I felt I lost a limb.
Next time she came to stay with us, I was astonished how her priorities had changed.
We too must've given the same shocks to our own parents !
When she said Amma,
she meant her mother-in-law, not me!
I felt she was always in a hurry to go back to her house and not stay with me for a few more days.
That was the first time, it dawned on me that I have to start practising detachment with attachment.
Two years after my daughter’s marriage, my son left for higher studies to US.
Having experienced a child's separation once, I was better equipped emotionally.
I plunged head long into various classes held in the city starting from vedanta to healing to ikebana -
I just wanted to be away from home..since my husband was a 24/7 workaholic.
My son used to write how he was missing my home cooked food, how he was waiting to come back to live in Chennai with us ...
After a few years, he did come back and we got him married.
He started living separately with his wife and we were also happy that they wanted to be independant from the beginning...
But now, it was all changed !
When in the U S, he missed my cooking, now if I called him to come over with his wife for a meal, it was always some excuse like "oh, amma, we have other plans for the day, please don't mistake us if we don't drop in today" !
I could see that his priorities had also changed completely..
We talk so many things and give so much advice to others, but when it comes to our own children, acceptance comes very late. Our next step is to just leave them undisturbed
in every way.
It was at that time, that I made the following, my 'new profile'.
In all my relationships , rather interactions, I give my best and do my best to live up to what I say.
My attachment with them is complete.
However, I remain detached in the sense that I do not expect them to reciprocate my affection.
Most importantly, I make a conscious effort , not to interfere or pass judgements on the lives they choose to lead.
My concern for my near and dear ones will not fade with my detachment.
If you let go of the ones you love, they will never go away –
this is the beauty of attachment with detachment !
I have learnt to love and let go.
This dictum has developed tolerance in me.
When I let the people live the way they want to, I learn to accept them for what they are.
Most importantly ,
I learn to tolerate the world around me and this tolerance brings in me a sense of peace and contentment.
I ask God to guide me in being loving, compassionate, tolerant and understanding when I interact with others.
If a person wants to share a thought or concern with me
I want that person to feel comfortable to do so.
I want to remain peaceful and approachable to others.
Before I speak, I pray to God to give me the right words so that I express myself clearly and with consideration to others.
Since both my children live in Chennai, I follow this very strictly, you know why !
Now I have realised that we start growing mentally much more only after the children leave the house and we have to tackle the emotional vacuum, that arises, along with age-related problems .
I find this is the most testing period for a woman, as well and emerging successfully is a slow process.
I specially dedicate this post to my friends, who are totally dependant on their children's lives, to nurture their own selves emotionally.
Please develop your own intersts, hobbies etc, however mundane they seem to be..
We must learn
To love whatever we do
instead of
Doing whatever we love !!  

Sunday, September 15, 2019

=HEALTH=Chest Pain a Heart Attack?

=HEALTH=Chest Pain a Heart Attack?

Other typical symptoms include:
What other symptoms might I feel?
How long should the chest pain last?
  1. altHeart-attack-related chest pain comes on over several minutes and not suddenly. Sudden severe pain is a reason for concern, but it is not consistent with angina.
  2. The chest pain lasts for at least 5 minutes and doesn’t last continuously for more than 20 to 30 minutes.
  3. Pain that comes on during rest, or doesn’t go away after exertion, also indicates a heart attack.
What it shouldn’t feel like
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Friday, September 6, 2019

Gauri Puja, here’s the reason it is celebrated

During the 10 days of Ganapati festival, many communities in India perform Gauri Puja.

In many regional cultures, Gauri is considered to be Ganesha’s sisters — Jyestha and Kanishta, who have come looking for him. Two idols of Goddess Gauri are brought home and worshipped by people with elaborate rituals. Some people also believe Gauri to be a form of Goddess Parvati, Lord Ganesha’s mother. In some regions, these two sisters are believed to be goddess Saraswati and Lakshmi, who are the daughters of Ma Durga. Gauri Puja is done to welcome wealth and prosperity into the home.
The rituals are conducted over three days, starting from the third or fifth day as per traditions followed by various communities. The first day is called Gauri Avahan, where the Goddess is invited into the home. The second day is when the actual Puja takes place. And on the third day, the idol is immersed in a process called Gauri Visarjan.
When the idols arrive, the women of the house perform aarti and welcome the goddesses. The idols are set up on a decorated pandal. In many homes, Gauri’s feet are drawn on the floor from the entrance of the house till the altar. The idols are decorated with new clothes and ornaments, especially ones worn by married women like Mangalsutra and toe rings, and the altar is decorated with mango leaves and flowers. The women of the house also dress up in a green sari, just like the goddess, as green symbolises harvest and fertility.
During the visarjan, the ceremonial send-off, the idol is offered vermillion and turmeric, a piece of cloth, money, betel leaves and nuts. These are also given to other married women. After this, the idol is taken to a water body and immersed, concluding the three-day festival

Thursday, August 29, 2019

*This is something so beautiful that I don't mind reading it again and again *

*This is something so beautiful that I don't mind reading it again and again *
*APPROACHING 60 & 65s* 
A friend of mine crossed 60 and is heading to 65.
I asked him what's changing?
He sent me following lines:

Yes, I am changing. 
*After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I just realised that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I now stopped bargaining with vegetables & fruits vendors. After all, a few Rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I pay the taxi driver without waiting for the change. The extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I stopped telling the elderly that they've already narrated that story many times. After all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane & relive the past.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I've learnt not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. After all, the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I give compliments freely & generously. After all it's a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me*.

Yes, I am changing. 
*I've learnt not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. After all, personality speaks louder than appearances*.

Yes, I am changing. 
*I walk away from people who don't value me. After all, they might not know my worth, but I do*.

Yes, I am changing. 
*I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race. After all, I am not a rat & neither am I in any race*.

Yes, I am changing. 
*I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. After all, it's my emotions that make me human.*

Yes, I am changing. 
*I've learnt to live each day as if it's the last. After all, it might be the last* .

Yes, I am changing. 
*I am doing what makes me happy. After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.*

I decided to send this along because why do we have to wait for sixties, why can't we practice this at any stage.........

Safety... You will regret if you forget...!