Why Fathers are neglected in Old Age?

Why Fathers are neglected in Old Age?

Vijay B M ansukhani

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*In the lifetime of Family Settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.*

* - The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family* 

(Father, Mother Children) where power indisputably rests with the Father.

*- The 2nd is after the kids have grown started working*

when the power shifts to the Mother.

*- The 3rd is when the Kids move out of the Family house or

Start their own Families* When the Power moves to the Children.

*1.* We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father.

He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House. The boss.

*2.* During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist.

He barks orders determines what does or does not happen.

*3.* The father often vents out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him.

*4* The father is the provider for the family everyone is aware of that fact

with all attendant consequences.

*5.* Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have finished school and have started working. Power shifts to the mother.

*6.* When the children start earning their own money, for some reason,

it's their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her.

*7.* While the father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn't have much time to be a friend to the children.

*8.* They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father's tyranny.

*9.* The mother takes centre stage at this point.

She is the first to know what's happening with the children

she has advantage.

*10.* Should any of the daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the children spoil her with gifts.

*11.* At this stage, the father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their mother, but that boat has sailed.

*12.* Because the mother doesn't rely much on the father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his lordship. Friction.

*13.* Then the 3rd and last dispensation. Power has shifted to the children.

They are self-sufficient, live on their own have own families.

*14.* More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father mother, the children side with the mother.Years of joint- victim hood at play.

*15.* Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father

not to 'disturb' their mother. Next thing, extended visitations.

*16.* Woe beside the father if his finances are precarious at this stage.

You will be humbled by force. The gang-up is real.

*17.* This causes most men to fall ill develop different complications.

By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well.

*18.* Stroke, Hypertension, High-Blood Pressure. The man has a large family

but no relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought.

*19.* Moral, dear men, while the power lies with us,

let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won't be with us forever.

*20.* With the way you are treating your wife now,

how will she treat you when power shifts to her?

*21.* What relationship do you have with your family?

Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider?

*22.* Remember, the children always side with their mother.

Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments

of family strife.

*23.* Invest wisely for the future so that you won't have to beg

to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.

*ADVISE TO CHILDREN:-

* IT IS NOT GOOD TO ABANDON YOUR FATHER WHO DENIED HIMSELF TO GET YOU PREPARED FOR LIFE WHO SACRIFICIALLY SOWED TO MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE.

HONOUR YOUR BOTH PARENTS TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM IN THEIR OLD AGE. THAT IS HOW YOU TOO WILL SOW INTO YOUR FUTURE.

*DON'T LET NEGLECTING YOUR FATHER ( OR PARENTS )

BE A CURSE ON YOU INTO YOUR FUTURE.*

*ADVISE TO MOTHERS:-

* DON'T INCITE YOUR CHILDREN AGAINST THEIR FATHER.

*Parenthood Is Not Easy Despite Its Joys.

There Is No Manual On How It Works.*

*Wishing All Of You 

A Very Healthy, Wonderful, Blessed,Peaceful, Prosperous Happy Life Ahead*

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Guru Purnima=Gururbrahmaa gururvishnuh gururdevo Maheswarah | Guruh-saakshaat parabrahma tasmai shrigurave namah |

Gururbrahmaa gururvishnuh gururdevo Maheswarah |

Guruh-saakshaat parabrahma tasmai shrigurave namah |

Guru Purnima

      Devotional worship of the Guru - the preceptor - is one of the most touching and elevating features of the Hindu cultural tradition. The auspicious moment of Vyaasa Poornima, chosen for observing this annual festival, is no less significant. It was the great sage Vyasa, son of a fisherwoman, who classified the accumulated spiritual knowledge of the Vedas under four heads - Rig, Yajur, Saama and Atharva. To him goes the credit of composing the authentic treatise of Brahma-sootras to explain the background of Vedas. He also wrote the eighteen Puranas, the stories of our great heroes and saints, to carry the spiritual and moral precepts contained therein to the common masses.

      The greatest of epics of all times and of all climes - Mahaabhaarata - embodying the immortal song of God, the Bhagavad Geeta, also in it, is also the priceless gift of Vyasa. The Bhaagavata, the thrilling and devotional story of Sri Krishna, was also his contribution. It is in the fitness of things that Vyasa should be looked upon as the supreme preceptor of mankind. Offering of worship to him signifies the worship of all the preceptors of all times.

      The Guru in the Hindu tradition is looked upon as an embodiment of God himself. For, it is through his grace and guidance that one reaches the highest state of wisdom and bliss. "My salutations to the Guru who is Brahma, Vishnu and Maheswara. The Guru is Parabrahma incarnate"

Gururbrahmaa gururvishnuh gururdevo Maheswarah |
Guruh-saakshaat parabrahma tasmai shrigurave namah ||

      Various have been the great sages and saints who have been the spiritual and religious preceptors to countless individuals down the centuries. But is there any one who can be looked upon as the preceptor for the entire Hindu people - for all their past, present and future generations? Obviously, no individual can play that role. A human being is after all mortal and, however great, has his own limitations. He cannot be a permanent guide for the entire nation for all time to come. The preceptor for a whole society should be able to act as a perennial source of inspiration to the people, embodying the highest and the noblest national values and ethos. To the Hindu people, such a Guru can be no other than the sacred Bhagava Dhwaj.

      No one knows when and how this flag came into being. It is an ancient as the Hindu people themselves. It has flown over the hermitages of the seers and sanyaasins and also over the celestial palaces of emperors. It ha flown triumphantly over the battlefields of freedom struggle and has symbolized the immortal spirit of freedom in the Hindu mind. It is the one supreme symbol held in universal reverence by all sects and castes, and all creeds and faiths of the Hindu people. It is in fact the greatest unifying symbol of the entire Hindu world.

      The color of the Bhagava Dhwaj - the saffron, depicting renunciation and service, epitomizes the culture of Bharat. The flames rising from the yajna are saffron in color and indeed reflect this spirit. The concept of yajna is extraordinarily unique to Hindu culture and tradition.. Yajna is not merely a physical ritual. That is only symbolic. The Bhagavad Geeta describes the concept of yajna as the sacrificial offering of one's self to the good of all beings. "Not mine, but thine" is the true message of yajna. Whatever one achieves in this life in terms of physical prosperity and knowledge, one has to offer them back to the society. The Ishaavaasya Upanishad declares:

Ishaa Vaasyamidam sarvam, yatkincha jagatyaam jagat |
Tena tyaktena bhunjeethaah maa gridhah kasyaswiddhanam ||

      "God is the lord of all creation. After offering to Him, enjoy only that which is left over by Him. Do not rob what belongs to others."

      Acquiring of wealth is no sin but utilizing all of it for one's own self and one's own family is very much so. In the Bhagavad Geeta Sri Krishna warns: "He who eats all by himself without first offering to others eats only sin". However much one may earn, only the minimum things necessary for one's physical sustenance have to be utilized and the rest offered in service to the society. This is the Hindu way of tackling the challenge of harmonizing economic progress with social justice. This attitude, even while giving full scope to individual initiative, effectively neutralizes the evils of individual capitalism. Also, while it ensures social justice for the lowliest in society, the tragedy of state capitalism of the communist type is obviated and the sanctity of individual freedom upheld.

      The superiority of the concept of individual freedom implied in this trusteeship principle lies in its freedom to sacrifice for the social good with a high spiritual motivation, along with the commonly understood freedom to earn and acquire wealth. How is this transformation in individual's attitude to be effected?

    

 "Herein comes the genius of the Hindu viewpoint which prepares the individual's mind for this adjustment. He is educated and enlightened with regard to the true nature of happiness. The goal that is kept before him is not merely one of physical enjoyment; that is not going to give him lasting happiness. For that, he has to rise beyond his dependence on the physical objects and plunge into the depths of his own being and discover the eternal and boundless ocean of joy and bliss within. He will then realize that the people around him are also manifestations of the same spirit and the enjoyment of the fruits of his labor by them is equivalent to his own enjoyment. It is against the background of this life-attitude that a balance could be achieved."

      The pride of place given to men of sacrifice in the Hindu tradition was reflected in every stratum and aspect of life. The sages and saints, who had kept themselves away from the portals of pelf and power and had solely and wholly dedicated themselves to the temporal as well as spiritual enlightenment of the people, were looked upon as the leaders of par excellence of the society. They were in fact the lawgivers and the king was only the executive head to carry out those laws. This was how the political authority was held in check, and the moral and spiritual held sway in the affairs of the life of people.

The Upanishads declared -

Na karmanaa, na prajyaa dhanena tyaagenaike amritatwamaanashuh.

      It is not through actions, progeny or wealth but through renunciation alone that immortality is attained. Needless to say, it is not the physical abandonment of these aspects of human life that is advocated here. It is mental detachment and a spirit of considering his family life, his wealth and all his actions as so many means of worshipping God in the form of society that is set forth as the ideal. It is this unique philosophical trait of renunciation and service which can form the basis for the highest evolution of the individual combined with the happiness, harmony and progress of the society as a whole.

      The Bhagawa Dhwaj is the most resplendent emblem of this sublime philosophy. And, worship of this holy flag on this Guru Poornima Day is intended to instil in us this positive Hindu attitude towards life. The ceremonial worship of the flag through flowers accompanied by monetary offering is just an external expression of this attitude of surrender to the ideal. Real worship, for a Hindu, lies in becoming an image of the idea himself. Shivo bhootwa shivam yajet - one has to become Shiva Himself if one has to worship Shiva.

      The annual function of Sri Guru Pooja presents a moment of introspection for us to check up how far we have progressed in this path over the last one year, and take lessons from it and resolve to march faster in the current year.

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What You Need to Know About Neuropathy=HEALTH=

Neuropathy Causes and Natural Solutions The term Neuropathy is short for 'peripheral neuropathy'. It relates to nerve damage suffered by the peripheral nervous system, which is in charge of our nerves outside the brain and spinal cord.  Neuropathy is a complication that can be caused by a number of various conditions. Physical trauma, repetitive injury, infections, metabolic problems and exposure to toxins and some drugs can all lead to peripheral neuropathy.  Signs and symptoms of neuropathy Neuropathy usually starts as a tingling or burning sensation at our extremities, such as finger and toes. There is also a loss of sensation at the edge of the nerves that patients have reported feeling like they are wearing a thin stocking or glove on their hands.  The precise symptoms differ from patient to patient based on the types of nerves affected. There are three types of nerves that may be affected by neuropathy: Sensory, motor and autonomic. Sensory nerves Sensory nerves are responsible for collecting sensory information for the body, such as touch. Neuropathy of the sensory nerves can be expressed as: - Spreading numbness and tingling in hands and/or feet (which can spread to the arms and legs). - Burning, sharp or electric-like pain - Extreme sensitivity to touch - Problems with coordination Motor nerves: Motor nerves are the nerves responsible for activating our muscles and control movements. - Muscle weakness - Paralysis Autonomic nerves: Autonomic nerves are responsible for internal actions of the body, such as regulating digestion, heat and blood pressure. - Intolerance to heat - Problems with digestion, bladder and bowel control - Dizziness (or lightheadedness) brought about by problems with blood pressure. A common cause of neuropathy: Diabetes For diabetics, neuropathy can be quite common. That said, about 50% of diabetics who have neuropathy won't notice the symptoms, and it will stay on a very low level. For the other 50%, however, the symptoms will be unavoidable. Pain is the most common complaint, usually a 'prickling', 'stabbing' or 'burning' pain, that happens mostly at night. This, along with a numbness that feels as if the limb is 'asleep' - occurs predominantly in the toes, feet and legs. What do doctors prescribe for this condition? Most doctors will stick to the old medical regime of anti-depressants, anti-convulsants, steroid and cortisone injections, lidocaine patches and pain killers. These are powerful drugs that address the painful sensations for short and long term relief. However, as powerful drugs, they have a host of side-effects and must be administered very carefully. Some medical practitioners recommend electrical stimulation of the pain area and of the spine. The medical community is united in agreement that more solutions to this problem are required, but progress has been very slow from the medical and drug industry so far. Natural solutions to neuropathy  First off, if you are suffering from diabetes related neuropathy, you must do the following: - Give up smoking - Cut down on alcohol consumption or give it up altogether - Maintain a healthy weight - Exercise Other recommended habits for those suffering from neuropathy include: Wearing clothing that causes less irritation, such as cotton, covering the sensitive areas with wound dressing or cling film and using cold packs.  Stress relief is also a big help when it comes to neuropathy, and so relaxation techniques are a big help, such as yoga, meditation and acupuncture. Vitamin therapy Clinical studies have shown that certain supplements can have a cumulative effect on the symptoms and causes of neuropathy. These herbal extracts can be taken without worry that they may clash with a parallel medical treatment. Certain herbal extracts and formulas offer a level of relief that has rarely been reached by just using medical procedures. This must be taken daily to achieve the desired relief. Vitamins B1, B2, B6 and B12. Vitamin B deficiency is one of the major causes of neuropathy, and also one of the best natural solutions. All herbal extracts contain large amounts of vitamin B1, usually in its common form of thiamine.  Recent natural medications have reverted to using benfotiamine, which has been found to be significantly more effective in delivering vitamin B than thiamine is (x3). Stabilized R-Alpha Lipoic Acid (R-ALA) This powerful antioxidant that is one of the rare few materials that can pass through the brain's blood/brain barrier to enter the brain and go directly where it is needed the most.  Most importantly, it has a specific effect on the nerves that eases the pain and numbness associated with neuropathy, and promotes better blood flow and oxygen to the nerves. Recent studies have reported that just by using the R-ALA alone, orally, has reduced symptoms of neuropathy. Neuropathy support formulas These days, it is common for those suffering from neuropathy to take both medical and vitamin therapies, combining short-term treatment with the cumulative effects of correct nutrition.  The best formulas (so make sure they have these in the ingredient list) include vitamins B1, B2 and B12, as well as Vitamin D, R-ALA and materials that relax your nervous system, avoiding overstimulation.  Please consult your Physcian, as this is for refernce only.