Motivation How To Live & Die

Motivation  

How To Live & Die 

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How To Live & Die

I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness

1- First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.

2- Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.

3- Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

4- Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a girlfriend or a best friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to accept the differences than to be quarrelling all the time.

5- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.
6- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

7- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.

8- Eighth, every morning and evening devote 20 minutes to meditation or introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.

9- Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.

10- Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.

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How Much Sleep Do You Really Need Each Night?=HEALTH=

How Much Sleep Do You Really Need Each Night?=HEALTH=

“Sleep is important for mental function: alertness, memory consolidation, mood regulation, and physical health,” says Phyllis C. Zee, MD, PhD, professor of neurology and director of the Sleep Disorders Center at the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

Too few hours of sleep or poor sleep could pave the way to a myriad of emotional and physical problems, from diabetes to obesity, explains Dr. Zee. “In fact, data shows that with sleep loss, there are changes in the way the body handles glucose, which could lead to a state of insulin resistance (prediabetes),” says Zee. “There is also evidence that lack of sleep alters appetite regulation, which may lead to overeating or food choices that can also contribute to obesity or being overweight.”

YOUR SLEEP NEEDS WILL CHANGE OVER THE YEARS

How much sleep you need to stay healthy, alert, and active depends on your age and varies from person to person. Most adults need at least seven or more hours of sleep each night.

The National Sleep Foundation (NSF) and a panel of 18 experts combed through more than 300 studies to identify the ideal amount of time a person needs to sleep according to their age:

Newborns (0 to 3 months): 14 to 17 hours of sleep

Infants (4 to 11 months): 12 to 15 hours of sleep

Toddlers (1 to 2 years): 11 to 14 hours of sleep

Preschoolers (3 to 5 years): 10 to 13 hours of sleep

School-aged children (6 to 13 years): 9 to 11 hours of sleep

Teenagers (14 to 17 years): 8 to 10 hours of sleep

Young adults (18 to 25 years): 7 to 9 hours of sleep

Adults (26 to 64 years): 7 to 9 hours of sleep

Older adults (65 years or older): 7 to 8 hours of sleep

Gender Tends to Affect Our Sleep Patterns

Although most men and women need about 7 to 8 hours of sleep per night, their sleep patterns are generally different. Women often sleep more than men, and they experience a lighter sleep that is more easily disrupted. Many women also have undiagnosed sleep disorders.

Problems that can disrupt women’s sleep include depression, major life events (such as divorce), pregnancy, hormonal changes related to menopause, sleep disorders — including obstructive sleep apnea and restless legs syndrome — and medical problems like arthritis, back pain, and fibromyalgia.

Both women and men often lose sleep over job-related stress, according to research.

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Additional stressors that cause men to lose sleep include life issues regarding marriage or divorce, children, employment, and money. Other causes include sleep disorders, substance abuse, depression, and medical problems like epilepsy and heart disease. Men are also more inclined than women to take sleep for granted and stay up longer than they should.

Snoring is another factor that may prevent you from getting the z’s you need. Nearly 90 million of us snore to some degree at night, according to the NSF, and the reasons behind it may also be related to gender. (3) Men often have air passages that are narrower than women’s, which results in more night noise as the breath is forced through a smaller opening.

Men also tend to drink more alcohol and may imbibe to excess more often than their female counterparts, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (4) Because alcohol can relax the muscles in the airway and throat, more snoring — and less sleep for bedmates — are frequent results.

Both women and men can improve their nighttime rest quality by adopting a few sleep best practices. These include adhering to the same wake and sleep schedule every day, powering down electronics at least an hour before bed, keeping the room you snooze in on the cool side (between 60 and 67 degrees is ideal, according to the NSF, (5) and sticking to a relaxing routine before bed, such as a warm bath, having a light snack, and reading quietly before tucking in.

If you believe you need professional advice about your lack of sleep, it’s a good idea to maintain a sleep diary for about a week. This will help your doctor get an accurate picture of your sleep history. Your doctor might recommend a device to keep your air passageways open, or a weight loss plan, based on your individual symptoms and needs.

10 Smart and Beautiful Tips from a Father Who Lost His Son...

10 Beautiful Tips for Life! Most of the difficulties that we experience in our lives help us grow stronger and teach us lessons, but there are those which can knock us down and make us lose hope for the future. Richard Pringle, a bereaved father who lost his three-year-old son because of cerebral hemorrhaging, experienced this loss, which is certainly the most difficult thing any parent can experience. Richard's eldest son, Hughie, died at age 3 after being diagnosed with a brain problem that led to cerebral hemorrhaging which abruptly ended his young life and left his father with many question marks in his head and a sharp pain in his heart. Despite the difficulty of the experience, Richard decided to share some insights in an emotional post on his Facebook page, which has been shared tens of thousands of times and has touched the hearts of people all over the world. The following 10 important lessons that Richard learned from his difficult experience helped him pick himself back up, and they will teach you what really matters in life.     1. You can never kiss or love too much Anyone who has experienced true love in their life, be it love for a good friend, family or children, knows that this feeling does not end, but grows with the years and is expressed in a multitude of ways. Love is an inexhaustible emotion that allows us to stay connected to people in our lives, and we must not try to hide it or be afraid to show it. We all need to “smother” others with love and kisses and not be afraid to shower them with the most human emotion of all. 2. You always have enough time Richard summed up the false sense that of most of us have and the prying thought that always tells us, "I don’t have enough time." After what he went through, Richard was able to see more clearly that even a single minute was precious time, and that we had to spend it on things that are dear to us. "Stop what you are doing and play, even for a minute. Nothing's that important that it can't wait." These powerful words remind us all to stop the race of life for a moment and to appreciate the important things, even for a moment. We will always have errands and chores, but they can wait for us to finish with more important matters.     3. Take as many pictures and videos as possible In modern times it is not difficult to take our smartphone and photograph small and big moments with our most favorite people. After the death of his son, Huey's pictures and videos were what Richard had left of him, and he stressed the importance of documentation because "one day, it may be all you have left." We are sure that most of you apply this advice without thinking about it, but between the pictures and the video clips, try to capture people you love in hidden moments, without them seeing you filming them, so you can see them as they are, naturally and without filters.  4. Don’t spend money, spend time “You think what you spend matters? It doesn't. What you do matters. Jump in puddles, go for walks. Swim in the sea, build a camp and have fun. That's all they want. I can't remember what we bought Hughie, I can only remember what we did”. This powerful sentence sums up the importance of moments in life and not of money spent on items that don’t matter in the long run. The memories you create with the people you love are precious, and the special moments with them will be engraved in your memory for life, so be sure to create and save them.   5. Sing songs together There is nothing belting out your favorite songs with the people you love. It frees us, allows us to be silly and enjoy the songs we love, and Richard stresses its importance. In his words, he said that the best memories of his son were when he sat on his shoulders or in the car with him and they both sang the songs they loved. "Memories are created in music," he summed up nicely, reminding us to open our mouths, release our vocal cords and just sing. 6. Cherish the simplest things There are days that simply pass us at the speed of light and become a vague memory over the years. When this happens, it is important to shake ourselves and cherish moments that may seem small, but sure are meaningful. "Night times, bedtimes, reading stories. Dinners together. Lazy Sundays. Cherish the simplest of times. They are what I miss the most. Don't let those special times pass you by unnoticed," Richard said of the passing moments that we all need to grasp tightly with both hands, and remember well.     7. Always kiss your loved ones goodbye "And if you forget, go back and kiss them," Richard said of sweet partings from the people we love. Unfortunately, this insight comes from not knowing when will be the last time you see a loved one, as happened to Richard with his son. These small kisses will bring a smile to both sides faces, and they are another small, stolen, and sweet moment you can spend with them. 8. Make boring things fun There are quite a few drab moments in our lives we wouldn’t mind ending, but according to Richard, we must not allow this to happen. Instead, color should be put into gray activities to add point and pleasure to them and turn them from boring to fun. “Shopping trips, car journeys, walking to the shops. Be silly, tell jokes, laugh, smile and enjoy yourselves. They're only chores if you treat them that. Life is too short not to have fun.”     9. Keep a journal. Write down everything your little ones do that lights up your world. Richard gives us very good advice on our relationship with others and what we will remember about them. "Write funny things they say, cute things they do," said Richard, noting that he and his wife did so only after they had lost their son. We all need to do this in order to perpetuate the little things that make people unique to us that they may not pay attention to, but we see, remember and love them for. 10. If you have your children  To kiss goodnight, To have breakfast with, To walk to school, To take to university, To watch get married, You are blessed. Never, ever forget that.

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BEST PICTURE OF PEACE

BEST PICTURE OF PEACE

There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peaceful towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged . Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work.

Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart.

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