12 WAYS TO BE A BETTER DAD

12 WAYS TO BE A BETTER DAD

What do I do with a three-year-old who”s grabbing my trouser leg just as I am on an important call?”

“I don”t really want to play house-house or hide and seek or
football after a long, hard day at work.”

“I”d rather watch the news/ financial channels, instead of
watching cartoons.”

“How am I going to get this adamant child to eat his food?”

“Isn”t this all in the mommy”s domain? Isn”t my role that a
provider?”

And that last is a wail for help! If these questions plague you, then you must be a Dad. And here”s what you can do to remove the struggle out of being Daddy.

1. Spend time with your children

How much time a father spends with his children tells them how important they are to him. Spend at least 15 minutes everyday having FUN with your children on a one to one basis, more when you can.

Find something that both of you enjoy, be it a sport, board games,
laughing together, tickling, dancing, painting'absolutely anything that is fun for both of you!

Remember, just filling their cupboards with toys and other material things is not going to build the bond, spending time together is what will get you closer.

2.Respect your children

Talk politely to your children. It is very important for us to respect to them if we want them to respect us.

Listening to them when they are talking, not interrupting their conversations, allowing them to make some of their own decisions, all go a long way in showing respect.

3. Communication is important

Talk to your children. Talk about their day-to-day routines and tell them about yours. Be aware of your child”s life, know their friends, the activities they do, their hobbies, and their interests. Get to really
know your children.

4. Don”t just hear, LISTEN

When children talk, what they are saying is very important to them. Don”t jump in and start giving advice, just listen to them. Try and understand the feelings behind the words.

Even if the talk seems childish patter to you, it is very important to listen, to really listen to your children.

Be available for them. Keep the newspaper aside, switch off the television, put your mobile on silent. Maintain eye contact and give them your undivided attention.

This will tell your children how important they are to you. It will go a long way in increasing their self-esteem and also set the stage for more meaningful conversations, as your child grows older.

Though if your children come to you at one of those times when you are really busy, tell them you will listen to them once you are done. Fix up a time — it could be half an hour later — to listen to what they have to say, and make sure to follow through with it.

5. Teach and encourag

Many times fathers think teaching is something their spouses or the school has to do. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices.

Fathers who are involved in the daily routines will teach their children the basic values of life through everyday examples.

6. Discipline with love

All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits.

Discipline should always come from a place of love to teach the children responsible behaviour.

You have to keep in mind that as the child grows older, the freedom should be increased and the limits have to be reduced. Take something as simple as bedtime. An older child can stay up till a much later time than a younger one.

Use choices where possible, though always remember that the choices given should be acceptable to you. Use positive forms of discipline such as logical consequences; wherein the consequence is connected to the misbehaviour.

For example, if the crayons are not put in the box after using them, the child loses the privilege of using them for maybe two days. Be sure to discuss this with your child beforehand and follow through with it the next time the situation occurs.

7. Demonstrate your love

Children need the security of being loved and accepted by their families. Showing affection is a wonderful way to demonstrate the love you have for your child. Hug them, kiss them and be there for them at all times.

Let them know they have your unconditional love and support. This will strengthen the parent-child bond and make your discipline and
communication an easier process.

8. Respect your child”s mother

One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong. Show your love and affection for your spouse. When you have a conflict, demonstrate how two people can make up. This teaches your children a lot about relationships.

If you are divorced, it is still important to respect the mother of your children. Don”t ever badmouth your spouse in front of the children. When children see you respecting each other, they are more likely to feel accepted and respected as well.

9. Eat together as a family

Mealtimes are special times for bonding as a family. Sharing a meal together is an important part of healthy family life (breakfast, lunch or dinner).

Besides providing stability to busy days, it is a wonderful opportunity for the entire family to share the happenings of their lives with each other. It is a time of togetherness and strengthening the family ties.

10. Take your children for outing

Take your children to the zoo, museums, the beach. Take them for walks; take them swimming, bowling, to the park. Take them to the temple. Fly kites with them, play Holiwith them. 

Give them your undivided attention and take the opportunity to teach them at these times. Spend time on a one-to-one basis or as a family. But, most importantly, enjoy yourself with them!

11. Be involved in your children”s lives and make them feel important

Give priority to your children over other things and other people. Attend parents” days, sports day, annual day celebrations and any events they are participating in or which are important to them.

No matter what you say to them, children know you would give your time to those things and those people who are important to you. Remember this the next time you have to take a decision on whether to attend an event that is important to your child.

Being a part of their important days will not only build your child”s self esteem but also go a long way in strengthening your relationship with them.

12. Be a good role model

Practise what you preach. Don”t tell your kids that honesty is the best policy and then ask your spouse to say you are not at home when an unwanted person calls.

Children will model themselves on your actions more than your words.

When you make promises, even to your children, follow through with them. Be the same man behind closed doors as you are in public. This will increase the respect your children have for you.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR "Cheti Chand jyon Lakh Lakh Wadayun Athav" JAI JHULELAL

WISH YOU ALL HAPPY CHETI CHAND JAI JHULELAL HAPPY NEW YEAR

HAPPY NEW YEAR  "Cheti Chand jyon  Lakh Lakh Wadayun Athav"  JAI JHULELAL  MayPeace Hope and Love be with everyoneToday Tomorrow and Always May you have success in all you do. And may every blessings be showered upon you.   As the dawn breaks on a New Year, let us give thanks for all we hold dear: Our health, our family, our friends, the grace of universe which never ends. Let us release our grudges, anger and pains, for these are nothing but binding chains. Let us vow to live each day in the most pious, self conscious way. Let us vow to serve all who are in need, regardless of race, caste, gender or creed. Let us vow to keep love in our heart, . Let us vow to lead the world from darkness to light, from falsehood to truth, and from wrong to right. And let us vow to remember that we are all one, embracing all, discriminating against none. May your year be filled with prosperity and peace, and love and joy which doesn't cease. May you have success in all you do. And may every blessings be showered upon you.      HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR According to the Hindu calendar, Cheti Chand is celebrated on the first day of the Chaitra month known as Chet in Sindhi. Hence it is known asCHET-I-CHAND The Sindhi community celebrates the festival of Cheti Chand in honour of the birth of Ishtadeva Uderolal, popularly known as Jhulelal, the Patron Saint of the Sindhis. This day is considered to be very auspicious and is celebrated with pompous and gaiety. On this day, people worship water – the elixir of life. Followers of Jhulelal observe Chaliho Sahab. It suggests that for forty long days and nights they underwent rituals and vigil on the bank of Sindhu. They did not shave, nor did they wear new clothes or shoes. They did not use soap or oil or any opulent thing. They just washed their clothes, dried them and wore them again. In the evening, they worshipped God Varun, sang songs in his praise and prayed for their solace and salvation. After 40 days of Chaaliho, the followers of Jhulelal celebrate the occasion with festivity as 'Thanks Giving Day' even till today.     "Twah khe bhi Cheti Chand jyon  Lakh Lakh Wadayun Athav"

RAMNATH ,JAYA

नमस्कार, गुढीपाडवा आणि नववर्षानिमित्त सर्वांना शुभेच्छा..! Happy Gudi Padwa

नमस्कार, गुढीपाडवा आणि नववर्षानिमित्त सर्वांना शुभेच्छा..! Happy Gudi Padwa The True Birth Day of Universe    Does the title seem "" Too far-fetched""? Fellow Indian [nay Bharatiya] friends,have we, the descendents of great sages [seientists],ever bothered to find the meaning of the following SankalpShloka which we recite before performing any pooja?            . This gives us the time as on today (according to earth time frame) from the birht of the present universe! गुढीपाडवा साजरा करण्याची पद्धत         कुठलाही सण आला की त्या त्या सणाच्या वैशिष्ट्याप्रमाणे आणि आपल्या पद्धतीप्रमाणे आपण काहीतरी करतच असतो; मात्र तसे करण्यामागची कारणे आपल्याला माहीत असतातच असे नाही. मंगळवार, चैत्र शुद्ध प्रतिपदा, (१६ मार्च २०१०) या दिवशी गुढीपाडवा आहे. गुढीपाडवा साजरा करतांना तो कसा करतात, त्याची आज आपण माहिती घेऊ. ------------------------------------------------ अभ्यंगस्नान (मांगलिक स्नान)      गुढीपाडव्याच्या दिवशी सकाळी लवकर उठून प्रथम अभ्यंगस्नान करण्यास सांगितले आहे. शरीराला तेल लावून चोळून ते त्वचेत जिरविणे आणि नंतर ऊनपाण्याने स्नान करणे म्हणजे अभ्यंगस्नान. स्नानामुळे रज-तम गुण एक लक्षांश इतके अल्प होऊन सत्त्वगुण त्याच प्रमाणात वाढतात. त्यांचा प्रभाव नेहमीच्या स्नानामुळे सुमारे तीन घंटे टिकतो, तर अभ्यंगस्नानामुळे चार ते पाच घंटे टिकतो. त्वचेला नेहमी स्निग्धता असावी लागते म्हणून तेल लावायचे. ऊनपाणी हे मंगल आणि शरीराला सुखदायक आहे म्हणून ऊनपाण्याने स्नान सांगितले आहे. अभ्यंगस्नान करतांना देशकाळकथन करावे लागते.  तोरण लावणे      स्नानानंतर आम्रपल्लवांची तोरणे सिद्ध करून प्रत्येक द्वाराशी लाल फुलांसहित बांधावी; कारण लाल रंग शुभदर्शक आहे. पूजा     प्रथम नित्यकर्म देवपूजा करतात. `वर्षप्रतिपदेला महाशांती करायची असते. शांतीच्या प्रारंभी ब्रह्मदेवाची पूजा करतात; कारण या दिवशी ब्रह्मदेवाने विश्‍वाची निर्मिती केली. पूजेत त्याला दवणा वहातात. नंतर होमहवन आणि ब्राह्मणसंतर्पण करतात. मग अनंत रूपांनी अवतीर्ण होणार्‍या विष्णूची पूजा करतात. `नमस्ते बहुरूपाय विष्णवे नम: ।' हा मंत्र म्हणून त्याला नमस्कार करतात. नंतर ब्राह्मणाला दक्षिणा देतात. शक्य झाले तर इतिहास, पुराणे इत्यादी ग्रंथ ब्राह्मणाला दान देतात. ही शांती केल्याने सर्व पापांचा नाश होतो, उत्पात घडत नाहीत, आयुष्य वाढते आणि धनधान्याची समृद्धी होते, असे सांगितले आहे.' संवत्सर पूजा केल्याने सर्व पापांचा नाश होतो, आयुष्यवृद्धी होते, सौभाग्याची वाढ होते आणि शांती लाभते.  गुढी उभारणेया दिवशी विजयाचे प्रतिक म्हणून गुढी उभारली जाते. पंचांगश्रवण     ज्योतिषाचे पूजन करून त्याच्याकडून किंवा `उपाध्याकडून नूतन वर्षाचे पंचांग अर्थात् वर्षफल श्रवण करतात.  कडुनिंबाचा प्रसाद     पंचागश्रवणानंतर कडुनिंबाचा प्रसाद वाटायचा असतो. मंत्राची आवर्तने करीत निंबाची फुले, कोवळी पाने, चण्याची भिजलेली डाळ किंवा भिजलेले चणे, मध, जिरे आणि थोडासा हिंग एकत्र मिसळून हा प्रसाद सिद्ध करावा आणि सर्वांना वाटावा.   जमीन नांगरणे : या दिवशी जमिनीत नांगर धरावा. नांगरण्याच्या क्रियेने खालची माती वर येते. मातीच्या सूक्ष्म कणांवर प्रजापती लहरींचा संस्कार होऊन बीज अंकुरण्याची जमिनीची क्षमता अनेक पटींनी वाढते. शेतीची अवजारे आणि बैल यांवर प्रजापती लहरी उत्पन्न करणार्‍या मंत्रासह अक्षता टाकाव्या. शेतात काम करणार्‍या माणसांना नवीन कपडे द्यावे.    दान : याचकांना अनेक प्रकारची दाने द्यावीत, उदा. पाणपोईद्वारा उदकदान. याने पितर संतुष्ट होतात. -------------------------------- गुढी उभारण्याची पद्धत  गुढीचे स्थान : गुढी उभी करतांना ती दरवाजाच्या बाहेर; परंतु उंबरठ्यालगत (घरातून पाहिल्यास) उजव्या बाजूला उभी करावी. उजवी बाजू म्हणजे जिवाची कार्यरत स्थिती. पद्धत : अ. गुढी उभी करतांना सर्वप्रथम सडासंमार्जन करून अंगण रांगोळीने सुशोभित करावे   गुढी उभारण्याच्या जागी रांगोळीने स्वस्तिक काढून त्याच्या मध्यबिंदूवर हळद-कुंकू वहावे. आ. गुढी उभी करतांना ब्रह्मांडातील शिव-शक्‍तीच्या लहरींना आवाहन करून तिची स्वस्तिकावर स्थापना करावी. यामुळे गुढीच्या टोकावर असलेल्या सर्व घटकांना देवत्व प्राप्‍त होते.  इ. गुढी आपल्या देहातील सुषुम्नानाडीचे प्रतिनिधित्व करत असल्याने ती जमिनीवर उंबरठ्यालगत; परंतु थोडीशी झुकलेल्या स्थितीत उभी करावी. महत्त्व अ. गुढीची झुकलेली स्थिती  १. ही जिवाच्या ईश्‍वराप्रती असलेल्या शरणागत भावामुळे कार्यरत झालेल्या सुषुम्ना नाडीचे प्रतीक आहे.  २. गुढी थोडीशी झुकलेल्या स्थितीत ठेवल्याने तिची रजोगुणी ईश्‍वरी चैतन्याच्या लहरी प्रक्षेपण करण्याची क्षमता वाढल्याने जिवांना वातावरणातील चैतन्याचा फायदा दीर्घकाळ मिळण्यास साहाय्य होते. आ. तांब्याचा कलश : गुढीवर असलेल्या तांब्याच्या कलशाची ब्रह्मांडातील उच्च तत्त्वाशी संबंधित सात्त्विक लहरी ग्रहण आणि प्रक्षेपण करण्याची क्षमता अधिक असते.  इ. कडुनिंबाची (कडुलिंबाची) पाने : या पानांच्या रंगकणांच्या माध्यमातून रजोगुणी शिव आणि शक्‍ती लहरींचे वायुमंडलात प्रभावी प्रक्षेपण चालू होते. अशा तर्‍हेने तांब्याच्या कलशातून संक्रमित झालेल्या निर्गुण कार्यरत लहरींचे कडुनिंबाच्या (कडुलिंबाच्या) पानांच्या स्तराला सगुण लहरींमध्ये रूपांतर होते.  ई. रेशमी वस्त्र : त्यानंतर या लहरी रेशमी वसनाच्या माध्यमातून प्रभावीपणे ग्रहण केल्या जाऊन त्या आवश्यकतेप्रमाणे अधोदिशेकडे प्रक्षेपित केल्या जातात.       उ. तांब्याचा कलश, कडुनिंबाची पाने आणि रेशमी वस्त्र : कडुनिंबाच्या (कडुलिंबाच्या) पानांतून प्रक्षेपित होणार्‍या शिव-शक्‍तीशी संबंधित कार्यरत रजोगुणी लहरींमुळे अष्टदिशांचे वायुमंडल, तसेच तांब्याच्या कलशातून प्रक्षेपित होणार्‍या लहरींमुळे उर्ध्व दिशेचे वायुमंडल आणि रेशमी वसनातून प्रक्षेपित होणार्‍या लहरींमुळे अधोदिशेचे वायुमंडल शुद्ध अन् चैतन्यमय बनण्यास साहाय्य होते.  आधी वंदूया लंबोदरा, नमुया प्रभाती दिनकरा सर्वधारीनाम संवत्सरा, शुभारंभ नववर्षजागरा ! जुन्यातले नवे ठेवुन,सर्वांगी नवपालवी लेऊन नव्याची ओढ सनातन, पुरवो हे वर्ष नूतन ! साडेतीन मुहुर्तांपैकी एक, गुढीपाडवा सण सुरेख या मंगलदिनी काही एक, शुभकार्य अवश्य करावे.. येत्या वर्षी नवीन घडूद्या , टाकाऊ ते सारे झडूद्या मंगलवार्ता कानी पडूद्या , गुढी यशाची नवी चढूद्या. नववर्षी इतिहास घडवा, कर्तॄत्त्वाचे इमले चढवा माणसांतले मैत्र वाढवा- सुरुवात आजच…गुढीपाडवा ! प्रार्थना : `हे ब्रह्मदेवा, हे विष्णु, या गुढीच्या माध्यमातून वातावरणातील प्रजापति, सूर्य आणि सात्त्विक लहरी ग्रहण केल्या जाऊ देत. त्यांतून मिळणार्‍या शक्‍तीतील चैतन्य सातत्याने टिकून राहू दे. मला मिळणार्‍या शक्‍तीचा वापर माझ्याकडून साधनेसाठी केला जाऊ दे, हीच आपल्या चरणी प्रार्थना !   RAMNATH ,JAYAM,& PATTI SOUMYA&KAMALASHWIN&MANALI&KIMAYA&HRIDAYA

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My first job was working in an Orange Juice factory, but I got canned. Couldn't concentrate. Then I worked in the woods as a Lumberjack, but just couldn't hack it, so they gave me the  axe.  After that, I tried being a Tailor, but wasn't suited for it -- mainly because it was a sew-sew job. Next, I tried working in a Muffler Factory,   but that was too exhausting.  Then, tried being a Chef, figured it would add a little spice to my life,  but just didn't have the thyme.  Next, I attempted being a Deli Worker, but any way I sliced it.... couldn't cut the mustard.  My best job was a Musician,  but eventually found I wasn't noteworthy. I studied a long time to become a Doctor,   but didn't have any patience.  Next, was a job in a Shoe Factory.   Tried hard but just didn't fit in.  I became a Professional Fisherman,   but discovered I couldn't live on my net income.  Managed to get a good job working for a Pool Maintenance Company,  but the work was just too draining.  So then I got a job in a Workout Centre ,    but they said I wasn't fit for the job.   After many years of trying to find steady work, I finally got a job as a Historian until I realized there was no future in it. My last job was working in Starbucks,      but had to quit because it was the same old grind.   SO, I TRIED  RETIREMENT AND I FOUND I'M PERFECT FOR THE JOB!

  

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